Every time my birthday comes around I get all sentimental and my melancholic side takes over and I’m all “booo… another year went by…. Did I make the most of it?? Am I more mature? Am I wiser???”
Overthinking it much? Yeah. You bet.
Welcome to my head. It’s a weird, overwhelming, fun place. For my own sake, I need to get my thoughts out and make a list of what I really learned this year. I don’t have them all ready to go… as I write, I find that I discover my own insights. Writing unleashes in me the ability to dive deeper into my mind and my heart. So here we go… I ask myself, “What did you learn this year you were 28 years old?”
- You’re never too old to cry tears of joy your first time at Disneyland
- It’s not impossible to lose 40 lbs if you have the right tools and coach and community
- Your heart can shatter over and over again and still, you will be okay. Time heals. Grief gets more bearable.
- If you ask God to help you fall back in love with Him, He will absolutely lead you to the right things and people to help you do that. He wants a relationship with me.
- Marriage is beautiful
- Marriage is tough
- Marriage takes work and communication and problem solving and commitment
- But also there’s so much grace in marriage, if you seek it out
- I feel the most fulfilled when I’m mentoring others one-on-one, such as being a coach
- Working from home is very, very difficult
- Stressing about finances does no good, find solutions and problem solve instead
- You can learn to love cauliflower pizza instead of the real thing. You can.
- Social events are about connecting with people and enjoying friendship, they do not have to be all about the food and drinks.
- There are a lot of spiders in california.
- You are brave enough to kill spiders, even if they’re big and in the shower
- Using bleach on white sheets will eventually turn them yellow. Use Oxyclean instead
- Tennis shoes with foam in the bottom are a gift from heaven
- Do things that scare you lots of times and soon you won’t be scared anymore.
- Monthly confession is always a good idea.
- Stop caring about what other people think. Just live your own life.
- “God will not have His work made manifest by cowards.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
- Sex is nothing like in movies and TV so just erase all that from your mind.
- Marry someone you can laugh with. A lot.
- Reading makes your mind feel more awake than TV does.
- Vulnerability is difficult but worth it; you need to connect deeply with others.
- “People are hard to hate close up. Move in.” – Brene Brown.
- But sometimes if the man at your UPS store is a creep and you’re sure he’s a creep… drive the extra 5 miles to a different store.
- The best is yet to come. Always. God always has good things in store and more grace and more gifts and it’s up to me to be open to them. To surrender to His goodness and not fear the unknown. To be grateful for all that I have and all that I will have.
You Are Enough
Don’t ever forget that okay? You are beautiful and precious and deserve good things — and I can’t tell you that enough! Look I even dedicated a side-bar-box-thing to it. God has a plan and a purpose for your life and He died and rose again because He wants to spend forever with you! Okay, read on. Important reminder over.
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“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10
My voice cracked as I said it and tears began to stream down my face. It was 5:30 in the morning on the day we were leaving to move to California.
In case you scroll through social media and begin to feel sad that your life doesn’t look like anyone else’s feeds. Remember, people share the highlight reel, not the behind the scenes of their every day.
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