Christina Mead

Yesterday I had the busiest day. Sun up to sun down my schedule was packed tight. But I’ve come to love Mondays and the way it feels like such a beautiful fresh start. And the sun was shining and it was in the 70’s and I had a great outfit on… and at one point in the afternoon I stepped out of my car and there was just something about the green trees and the breeze moving through them and I have all this energy these days. I stood still for a second, looking lost I’m sure.

I took a deep breathe and just thought, I love this.

Right now.

I love today. I love how I feel so alive. I love it when I have a full day and I manage it well instead of with complaints. I just felt so much grace and peace and it was so good.

I only had the ability or freedom to linger for a second, but it was perfect.

I’ve found so much joy in this stage of my life. In a very intentional way though. I sought it out. I’m making sure to fill my life with things that make me a happier, better person.

When I have such good days or good, small moments, I’m reminded of this quote I read a few weeks ago by Hans Urs Von Balthasar. He says,

Above all we must not wish to cling to our suffering. Suffering surely deepens us and enhances our person, but we must not desire to become a deeper self than God wills. To suffer no longer can be a beautiful, perhaps the ultimate sacrifice.

I suffered greatly last year through two miscarriages. I was traumatized and broken and chose to make space in my life for grief and whatever form it needed to take (read as: lots of anger). Real suffering begs to be felt and it is healthy to feel it and enter in and allow yourself to experience it. To really go through it instead of bury it.

Yet what I’m learning is exactly what is expressed in this quote. It’s okay to stop suffering. There is no need to drag on your suffering when God is inviting you to step into the new person your suffering can enable you to become.

It was so perfect too that this week I listened to this most recent podcast by Rob Bell called “Endless Invitation.” He talks about the same thing…

Trauma, stress, disruption, and change will always have an invitation within them to grow and expand. If in those times you do not say yes to the invitation to grow, expand, unfold, and move beyond… then you will end up regressing, entrenching, digging in your heels, and going in the other direction.

Wow. What truth.

Therefore… if you go through that trauma, allow yourself to be broken open in order to expand and grow and become a better (versus bitter) person… how can you stay in a place of beating your chest and saying “woe is me, I lost a loved a one,” … “woe is me I went through a break up,”… “ woe is me I had to move across the country”

You just don’t. There’s a grace that nudges you to stop suffering and accept how God was inviting you to grow during that time. And then to let go and enjoy life!

On the flip side, you will see people who insist on remaining a victim of their life and nursing their wounds. They will tell you everything happened for their destruction, not for their growth. They will tell you constantly of their sufferings because they have become entrenched in a self-centered view of life. Don’t be that person.

Life will always be filled with moments of trauma, stress, disruption, and change. There will always be suffering.

In my own day to day life, sure most days I am doing great. Of course I have an ache in my heart for my loss. Of course I miss those children I wish were here. But that doesn’t usually derail my joy, or cause me to perpetually be in a state of suffering and grief.

And then I get a bill in the mail from my insurance company saying that we owe $1000 for the “elective abortion” I had. The day that came in the mail, I definitely suffered all over again. I know it was a mistake, that someone coded my necessary MVA wrong. They didn’t mean to hurt my feelings and accuse me of not wanting my child. Because baby I wanted you so badly. I suffered. I suffered as I called and explained to them it was a miscarriage, not an elective abortion.

But then I felt this tug on my heart. It was that invitation from God.

An invitation to grow in that moment of suffering. Grow in compassion for others who may go through this. Grow in sympathy for the worker who was probably tired and had a long day and coded my procedure wrong. Grow in empathy for every woman who does suffer through an abortion and gets that bill in the mail and is reminded of the life that could have been. What does she feel when she opens that mail? Who is reaching out and loving her in that moment?

These are all invitations for me to grow. To allow my suffering to expand my heart.

And then to move on. To stop suffering. To smile again. To laugh. To look up at the trees and the sky and sun and feel alive and love my life. But to do it with a bigger heart that has broken open in order to grow and unfold and move beyond myself.

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Comments (5)

  1. That’s beautiful, Christina. You’re an inspiration. Keep on keeping on. Btw what you were saying about brokenness reminds me a little of a chapter in Henri Nouwens Beloved book. The Abiding Together podcast with Sr Miriam James are doing a lent book study on it. You might like it xx

  2. This is such an important, life giving message, thank you for writing it.

  3. I found your blog today. I am on the Optivia / Medifast program and struggled the month of March. I am back on track. I am finding when I get stressed or discouraged I tend to eat. I appreciate your spritual reminders.

    For the first time in my life I have had a regular bout of the blues and need to rely more and more on my faith. Sometimes it is difficult.

  4. Christina,
    I don’t know if I have EVER posted a comment before, but after getting very familiar with your blog and Instagram I felt like I had to say, Thank You!! When I read your posts, I am just in awe of the way God speaks through you. When I read your writing and short messages it is if God is speaking right to me. He just pours out of you each time you write. Each day I look for that spiritual connection with the Lord and of course first and foremost we read the Bible, but I also know I can always check your blog or Instagram for that spiritual fuel that one needs daily. Thank you for using your God given talents and sharing them with all of us so that we may feel God’s Love. I am also doing Optavia and had a bad month as well. Your blog posts have also helped me so much in that area of my life. Usually, for the most part I am disciplined when I make a commit to something, so struggling was a bit of a surprise to me. After reading several of your blogs, I was again very motivated and ready to take on my health and zest for life. I can’t thank you enough for your writing. By what you are doing here and on your Instagram you are able to reach so many people and bring just even one more to know Him and His LOVE. God sees that and knows your HUGE heart!! Mind Body and Soul. Thank you and many blessings to you and your husband. I am also praying for you, too!!

  5. I needed to hear this. My 19 sister was in a fatal car accident in March and though I’m coping with it well, recently I felt mad at the world. I let my pain over take my thoughts and the joy in my everyday life. Thank you for sharing this post. ❤

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