My eyes dart back and forth. My heart races. I take a deep breath. Close my eyes. And begin.
Yeah so… that’s me on a Monday morning like today standing at my computer trying to prioritize my tasks for the day. I tell myself to just focus on one thing at a time. I make a giant list that has all the little and the big things on it so I can have some easy wins when I get to cross off the little things. And I tackle it all with a pot of coffee by my side.
The truth is that it is a lot of work running my own successful coaching business, in addition to our photography work, in addition to working part time as a nanny. I don’t ever want to pretend everything’s all perfect and organized and beautiful. It’s a bit messy. Most days.
Today I just could NOT find the time to clean up the kitchen from yesterday and today’s dishes. Of all the things needing my attention, the smelly bowls and food crumbs strewn about were not ranking high. I had to laugh every time I walked in there because I heard myself say something I learned from another busy woman. When everything is vying for her attention and her desire for perfection (including a perfect house) is making her cringe… she looks at the pile of laundry, or the dishes and she says (out loud) to them, “it’s not your turn.”
Don’t you love that?
Dishes: It’s not your turn for my time and attention. You get me after dinner.
Laundry: It’s not your turn. You get Saturday mornings.
Annoying promotional emails: It’s not your turn. I’ll deal with you while sitting in the starbucks line.
It seems silly and it can feel silly too, but when you’re the kind of person who just wants it all done and done now, this little phrase is clutch. Mainly it’s a reminder to myself of where my focus is supposed to be.
This all being said…I love my life so, so much and I love being busy and having lots to do. But the one thing I had to learn the hard way was that every day, first thing in the morning… it IS my turn to take care of ME first.
I try not to answer emails or texts or start on my to-do list until after I’ve cared for me first. It sets the tone for the day. Helps me succeed because I’ve first given myself the message that I matter. I am important. I can not serve and love and do my best if my cup isn’t filled up.
So when my alarm went off at 6:30am, I put on my shoes and went out for a little jog. Then I made myself a nice breakfast and sat and ate it without my phone nearby. Then I took Dan to work, came home and showered, put on mascara and made a pot of coffee.
Finally (8:30am actually), I stood at my computer, took a deep breath, and got a ton of stuff done. I crushed today and I know my good mood, my energy, my focused and on point nutrition, were all directly related to taking the first moment of my day for me. Just me.
So I guess if I were to leave you with one piece of advice it would be this… when your to do list overwhelms you, make sure you take a moment, even 5 minutes, to care for yourself. It’s your turn. First and foremost, you deserve to care for you. Every morning, it’s your turn.
You will feel so much more empowered to conquer everything else. Sometimes this means you have to wake up before everyone else. Worth it. Sometimes it means going to bed earlier so you can wake up before everyone else. Worth it. You are worth the extra effort.
Grateful tonight for a lovely Monday. Excited for tomorrow. Planning a nice bike ride for the morning!
You Are Enough
Don’t ever forget that okay? You are beautiful and precious and deserve good things — and I can’t tell you that enough! Look I even dedicated a side-bar-box-thing to it. God has a plan and a purpose for your life and He died and rose again because He wants to spend forever with you! Okay, read on. Important reminder over.
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