Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
I am a different person than I was 5 years ago when I started going regularly and I know there are lots of factors… but therapy is a huge one. I would not have learned the things I have, or grown in the ways I have, or let go of things, or healed from any past wounds, or learned how to be a healthy, balanced adult if I had not been in consistent therapy with an amazing counselor.
I want to be a fighter and I’m working on it every day. Being a victim is tempting because it can get you a lot of attention. That attitude can manipulate people into feeling bad for you and giving you attention and special favors. That’s appealing, isn’t it?